First off I am a private person , not that I am doing anything ilegal or immoral but if I want you to know something I will tell you.
Recently I had a bad break up with some one that I had grown to care a lot about . During the time I was with this woman we would fight like most couples would only five minutes later I couldn't tell you what they were about. Sometimes my comfort with being nude became an issue, but we worked around that. I wasn't doing anything wrong anywhere it wasn't allowed and since I cared for this woman I made changes to what I liked to please her.But then came the arguements about the stupid things like seeing a movie with my best friend when she wanted me to see it with her ( it wasn't good enough to watch it again since we could only see each other on the week ends).Or the fact she swore up and down that she trusted me but not anybody else when I told her I met someone and her husband at a resort I went to and that we should all possibly hang out sometime since they lived close to her. As soon as I mentioned that I was accused and treated like I had done god knows what with the couple and was never allowed to socialize with them again just because she found what she was looking for on google ( which any one can do.Google isn't the best place to find acurate , unbiassed information ).To top it off I wasn't even allowed to finish my sentence and say we would meet that couple at a local restaurant to avoid any uncomfortable situations.God forbid the one or two times I was to tired for sex,I have NEVER seen another woman act that livid with someone before.You would think 2-4 times a day some days would be enough.
Somewhere in the 6 months we dated I tried opening up to this woman as best I could ( which I am not good at). Without openly saying it I wasn't trusted around other women , even ones I have known for years.As soon as I broke up with this woman I was accused of doing all sort of nasty things with a woman that had been a friend of mine through the darkest part of my life. She was there for me through my divorce and now that I am dealing with the custody she is still there to lend a simpathetic ear whenever i need it.
Everything came to a boil when she was leaving my place at 4 in the morning to go home before work.I woke up when her alarm went off but then dosed off and she got pissed instead of asking me to walk her out to her car ( which I would have been happy to do if she asked).Two day's later she text's me saying how I don't love her anymore just because I didn't walk her out or talk to her( aparently it didn't matter I was tired at 4am and work crazy hours in the Army) Granted I could have been more tactful( another flaw of mine) when I told her I was working and that the phone works two ways, but you don't respond simply with "Fuck You" to someone you say you love...I don't anyway, maybe i'm wrong. With all the stress from My ex wife, not seeing my kids, work , not getting paid right in almost three months and then her pettyness on top of that I kind of snapped a little and broke it off with her in my next text ( again not good on my part, but I'm trying to improve).That weekend I had a siminar to attend and got a nice suprise when I saw all the stuff i set aside of her's was gone as well as anything she had given me as a gift ( which I didn't think un petty people did).I had planed to take care of this as adult's , but what am I supposed to think when you come in my place un invited and take stuff , like unmaking my bed, taking a down comforter someone else bought me and remaking my bed to try and hide it .Or stake knives you had given me , or even worse intimate things we had gotten together that you never used alone.
Finally when we talk like adults about our break up and never mention you coming in uninvited to take things that weren't yours , and telling personal things about me to my family and friends or insulting my art work just because your mad. Luckily I had a friend watch the house while I was gone or no telling what happened. In closing what would you do if you were in a situation like this and the one your with chooses a public forum like DA to defimate your character and those of your friends?